If there is one thing I have learned from life (and it has been a difficult lesson), it is that you will always be unhappy until you surrender to who you really are and what you really want.
I believe that the larger part of you always has an arial view of your life’s unique journey and it is guiding you along the right path. So anything you do that conflicts with this path will send up distress signals of uneasiness, despair, depression, etc. You’ll feel these emotions the moment you act in ways that go against your truest self’s grain. This is your feedback mechanism and, I would propose, the biggest reason people experience negative feelings – they are acting out of alignment with who they know they should be.
Now, luckily, most of “you” fits inline with social structures. But there are some areas that are a little, um, off the beaten path. With those aspects of your personality, it can be hard to fight the powerful current of society and deal with the weird looks.
This is because we create social structures that are designed to make things flow smoothly. Some of these structures (like highways) work quite well. Others, however, don’t work for everyone. Certain styles of living, like going to college and getting a safe job with a 401(k), don’t suit some people. In fact, they don’t suit hardly anyone. Nevertheless, people do them in order to fit into the system. A sense of distress and unhappiness is the result – it’s telling you to STOP with the nonsense and start living your passions.
This is at once the easiest decision you’ll ever make and the most difficult thing you’ll ever do. If you’re looking for the 8-step plan for living true to yourself, I don’t have it. This is because 1) there is no exact plan – each step is revealed to you along the way, and 2) you already know how to do it. This has nothing to do with figuring out the steps, it’s about your decision to be YOU, or to quietly hide from the truth and sadly flow along with society. One option is safe and miserable, the other is risky and oh so delightful. You decide.
At the end of the day, this is your LIFE. And if you’re not doing you, who will?
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