Try controlling the outcomes of your actions and you’ll find yourself in a spiral of struggle and despair.
But focus exclusively on the process of doing what you do, let that be enough, and the outcomes will take care of themselves.
If you go into the interview looking for the job, you are misguided. There is nothing you can do to control whether or not they hire you. Instead, your focus must be on the process of giving the best interview possible. Forget about the job. Leave the meeting fully satisfied that you did your part to the best of your ability.
This brings two much-needed benefits:
- You find relief from the endless rumination. It simply doesn’t matter how productive this activity was, or how much that person appreciated your comments, or how you anticipate the future will play out. Your satisfaction is back under your control and that feels really good.
- You’re more effective in your work. The things you choose to do will have more focus and energy then ever before. Your work shifts from good to great and then, ironically, you create much more positive outcomes.
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