Tag: happiness

update

I’m about half way through my experiment of delight. During the month of February, I have decided to follow my delights no matter what happens. 13 days in, it has been interesting. My views have morphed a bit; some things have fallen by the wayside and some new things have been added. If you’re interested, here are some haphazard thoughts on how delight has impacted my life so far: I just want to love people. As I have oriented my focus around delight, the way I relate to people has… Read the Rest »

journey

Never leads to a happy ending. If you are working (struggling) towards an outcome in a way that is not delightful, the results will disappoint every time. The destination will always be a match for the journey. Do the lifeless investment banking job in order to make money and the money will be just as distasteful as the work. In that sense, the destination was just as unhappy as the journey. You’re unhappy doing the work and unhappy with the results. It’s a lose-lose. But take a journey where you… Read the Rest »

The lovely and insightful Melody said this recently and I can’t stop thinking about it: …you can’t ever get it wrong. You can’t screw up your journey. You can’t miss your destination. You can’t NOT get what you want eventually. You are always moving towards happiness and your desires. There’s a natural process at work here that you can’t mess up. Doesn’t that bring you a wave of peace and delight to know that, no matter what you do, it is always leading you towards a more perfect expression of… Read the Rest »

A while ago I wrote about delights. I said that if the universe wanted to evolve our lives in new ways, it would do so through our delights. The specific quote I posted was this: “It’s been said by evolutionary biologists and behavioral psychologists, that if the universe wanted to move a human being in a particular direction, that based on what we know of human nature, it would do it through what delights us. Not through punishment or desire, but through delight.” I believe that wholeheartedly. In fact, I’m ready to… Read the Rest »

I have a short stack of books that, if I were in charge of the world, I would make everyone read them. I just added Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy to that list. It was originally written in 1980 by psychiatrist David Burns, one of the pioneers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Feeling Good is primarily focused on the treatment of depression. Reading the book and doing the homework has been clinically proven to dramatically reduce the severity of depression – just the book, all by itself, without antidepressants… Read the Rest »

There’s a lot to be said about NOT getting what you want. I keep a detailed journal which dates back over 5 years. If you look at the content from 2007, you would see many entries about all the things I was hoping to achieve in the immediate future – the home, the relationship, the business, the success. You know what? None of those things came true. Not one. I mean, seriously, I should have set goals for the opposite of what I wanted because I had a perfect track… Read the Rest »

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I was flipping through a preview of the book, A Zen Path Through Depression on Amazon and came across a quote: “It’s been said by evolutionary biologists and behavioral psychologists, that if the universe wanted to move a human being in a particular direction, that based on what we know of human nature, it would do it through what delights us. Not through punishment or desire, but through delight. It would do us well to pay attention to that.” Right?! Delights are what lead us into newer and better expressions… Read the Rest »